The Four Sefiros of First Dates

5 Jan

There are many aspects in life in which challenge is welcome, but I think we can all agree that dating is not one of them. So you do hear the occasional story where a rather boorish dater pulls the keys out of the ignition at a red light or suggests using the massage chairs at Brookstone, but most people try to play it safe.  Especially on a first date.

As an official inductee of the the shidduch parsha, I have noticed a few things about first dates:

A) They have the potential to be incredibly awkward

B) They have the potential to be incredibly boring

C) They have the potential to be chilled out and enjoyable

Since A and B are options we would like to leave in the world of the hypothetical, I have broken down the plethora of first date possibilities into four sefiros, each one a little more advanced than the other:

1. The Coffee Date

2. The Restaurant Date

3. The Activity Date

4. The Store-Museum-Any-Place-You-Can-Only-Look-At-Stuff Date

If you think of any more sefiros of first dates, please share. Get ready for the Coffee Date in an upcoming post!


3 Responses to “The Four Sefiros of First Dates”

  1. Anon January 10, 2011 at 3:26 am #

    So as someone from the side that’s tasked with picking out one of those “four sefiros,” which do you like best?

  2. Coral Cap January 10, 2011 at 10:08 pm #

    Well if you’re asking me personally, my only requirement is to have a place to sit and talk, so I would say the Coffee Date. Though the other three are also fun, I think they’re only truly fun when the two parties already know each other pretty well. I’ll speak about it greater depth in later posts so stay tuned!


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