To Be Enough

9 Oct

In my heart I hold the greatest wish of all.

It is not to be the most charming or beguiling.

It is not to be the smartest or the wisest.

It is not to be the funniest.

Or the wittiest.

Or the prettiest.

It is not to be the most stylish and best dressed.

It is not to be the envy of all.

It is not to be the most adored.

Or friended.

Or valiantly contended for.

I do not wish for any of those things.

In my heart I hold the greatest wish of all.

To be enough.

No more,

No less

For the blessing of enough is greater than any other.

And that is what I wish to be for you.

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8 Responses to “To Be Enough”

  1. aminspiration October 9, 2010 at 10:32 pm #

    the question at this point is then, what is enough?
    enough for who? you? ur bashert? Hashem?
    When are you enough? cuz really its never enough, we need to always be striving higher to be better

  2. coralcap October 10, 2010 at 12:10 pm #

    There are some relationships in which you never feel like you are enough. It’s not because the other person purposely makes you feel that way, but instead of feeling at ease around them, you feel like you constantly have to win over their approval. This can happen in various relational arenas, but I wrote this in reference to dating. Sometimes we think if we had nicer clothes or a cuter nose or a sharper sense of humor that the person we so badly want to impress would accept us as much as we accept them. But the greatest blessing of all isn’t to be the funnies/prettiest/most popular…it is to be enough of all those things, and loved for that. We live with the false notion that our future spouses will fall deeply and madly in love with us because they think we are perfect, but chances are, if they think we are perfect they don’t know us at all. The great blessing is for them to see us as we are and still want to build a life with us; that they see us as the person who can meet their needs, be trusted and enjoy the journey of life with.

    Enough: occurring in such quantity, quality, or scope as to fully meet demands, needs, or expectation.

  3. aminspiration October 10, 2010 at 9:15 pm #

    Definately agree, you dont want someone who loves you despite ur imperfections, u want someone who loves you because of them…
    its important to know without a doubt that you have the unwavering love of someone that is not dependent on anything..

  4. Deena October 11, 2010 at 1:54 am #

    It’s like the idea of being a “good enough” mom. Agreed. And thanks for including habitza.com” (testing out my new html capabilities so don’t laugh if this link doesn’t work:) in your blogroll!

    • coralcap October 11, 2010 at 11:52 am #

      My pleasure, Deena! A blog with a tagline as good as yours (“date like a mensch”) totally deserves to be publicized.

      • Deena October 11, 2010 at 1:14 pm #

        Of course I agree! And now should I try the html again? 🙂 habitza.com (Why doesn’t it work?!)

        Oh, I added you to my blogroll, fyi.

  5. Deena October 11, 2010 at 1:15 pm #

    Yay!

  6. MSW October 15, 2010 at 11:31 am #

    Thanks Coral – I always appreciate the insightful thoughts you post on your blog. Keep ’em coming!

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